Have you ever paid a compliment to woman and watched as her face lit up, watched as she stood a little taller, walking away as though you made her day? It’s amazing, the power we have to uplift one another as women. Reaching any goals you set for yourself takes support and inspiration and dedication. We all need tools- personal, emotional and professional development of some kind to get to the places that we’d like to be in life. Organization and balance in my own life have been a personal challenge for me in achieving goals. I’ve struggled with trying to figure out how to manage my “job job“ while still being able to pursue other projects that light me up from the inside. Whenever I have felt as though I did not have the courage or strength or even the direction to get to the goals that I set for myself or even the clarity to figure out what those goals were, I’ve reached out to my goals sisters to help me. Goal Sisters you say? Lol. It’s based off of a book that I read in 2004 that spoke to the importance of working together in a “buddy system” of sorts to get to where you want. Do you remember when we were young and the teachers would have us walk through the halls of kindergarten or first grade with a “buddy“ at our side so that we could keep an eye on each other? Same idea, all grown up! I’m so grateful for the women that I have in my life. Strong women. Fierce women. Goddesses. Women who have held me up when I was feeling low, pushed me forward when I needed that proverbial kick in the butt, sat with me when they recognized that I needed to rest and pulled me to a full stop when I was too tired to go on but too foolish to see that for myself.
So if you’re trying to figure out all the details of your own sister circle, here are a few things to consider:
Think about the qualities you look for in those very best friends of yours and imagine who would like to have around you holding you accountable. And remember the best part of this, is that you can do the same for them.
Next think about times when you might be able to get together. This might be a really tough one nowadays as we live in a time of Covid and quarantines. Allow yourself to get creative. Think about doing virtual get togethers where are you can discuss goals with one another and the things that you’d like to accomplish.
Create a goal sheet or template for you and your group. And if this is just you working with one other person then this goal sheet can work between the two of you to help hold one another accountable. The goal sheet can be something that you Can complete daily for yourself and share with one another weekly or biweekly. On your template you might include things like your ultimate goal, steps towards your goal, daily tasks towards your goal, deadlines, etc.
Journal about your progress toward your goal. It could be a written journal, it could be a collage, perhaps a bullet journal, or a piece of art, it can be written on the calendar - the point- it can be whatever you want. Having something documenting your progress allows it to be visual reminder of where you are in your progression.
Remember to have celebrations for the small wins. As you are progressing toward a bigger goal remember that you’re always going to be achieving smaller ones along the way. Your special tribe of women are the best people to celebrate with you. So maybe you might create a list of things that you will treat yourself to as you “check off” things in your to do list or whether you celebrate with others, it’s all part of the fun.
I'd love to hear about the tribe you are building. And if you would like any support along the way, I'm here for you...I'd be happy to have you as part of my tribe!